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LESSONS IN RESPONSIBILITY: FROM FAMILY TO LIFE
Zion and Zach
These are my two spirited boys. They bring endless joy to my life, but like all of us, they've had their share of struggles. They sometimes find solace in fighting each other and inadvertently disrupt the tranquility of our home. What's evident is their tendency to deflect responsibility when things go awry, a pattern that often extends to adulthood.
This case study involving my kids highlights how we all face challenges in life, and rather than viewing them as problems or issues, we should acknowledge that we are wounded and in need of healing. It's not about being wrong; it's about recognizing the need for a safe space where we can feel valued, heard, secured, and connected. To achieve this, we need someone who can truly listen and provide the support we require.
Selah
The is my princess and the emperor of blame-shifting. Do not look directly into her eyes, or you will believe that everything is your fault. I don't know how she learned to manipulate people, but she has a gift. She is always explaining herself or complaining when she is in trouble. And you know what, we do the same thing. We are always defending ourselves or making excuses. Nowadays, nobody's at fault for anything. We are a nation of victims.
In reality, we all tend to avoid taking responsibility and attributing the consequences of our choices and behavior to external factors or others’ actions. However, it's essential to recognize that what we truly need is someone who can listen and help us find our way to feeling valued, secured, accepted, and connected.
Embracing Responsibility:
A Journey of Healing, Loss, and Connection
My own journey reflects these lessons from my kids. For years, I shifted blame—whether it was for my failed ventures, strained relationships, or personal struggles. I chased success, but in reality, I was running from accountability and the healing I needed. When I turned 40 and lost my father, life forced me to face the hard truths I had been avoiding. I was no longer just a husband or father—I had to step up as the head of my household. It wasn’t until I embraced these responsibilities and took ownership of my life that I began to grow. It’s not about finding fault, but about accepting the challenges and seeking genuine connection. Now, I’m focused on helping others find that same path—toward wholeness, purpose, and true fulfillment